The year 2015 had already ended and so the superficial friendship that I have with some people whom I refuse to name in this blog entry.
I am a really sentimental person.
I easily get attached to things, to places, to persons, to memories.
In our house, you will find a lot of things, a lot of knick-knacks that I refuse to throw or be given away for they have “sentimental value.”
Perhaps, you will also agree with me that it is not easy to forget and it is really hard to let go of the things, of the habits, and the people which had been part of your life.
But just like what Simone Weil had said,
“Attachment is the great fabricator of illusions; reality can be obtained only by someone who is detached.”
And as the young writer Brigid Gorry-Hines says:
“Life has a way of going in circles. Ideally, it would be a straight path forward––we’d always know where we were going, we’d always be able to move on and leave everything else behind. There would be nothing but the present and the future. Instead, we always find ourselves where we started. When we try to move ahead, we end up taking a step back. We carry everything with us, the weight exhausting us until we want to collapse and give up.
We forget things we try to remember. We remember things we’d rather forget. The most frightening thing about memory is that it leaves no choice. It has mastered an incomprehensible art of forgetting. It erases, it smudges, it fills in blank spaces with details that don’t exist.
But however we remember it––or choose to remember it––the past is the foundation that holds our lives in place. Without its support, we’d have nothing for guidance. We spend so much time focused on what lies ahead, when what has fallen behind is just as important. What defines us isn’t where we’re going, but where we’ve been. Although there are places and people we will never see again, and although we move on and let them go, they remain a part of who we are.
There are things that will never change, things we will carry along with us always. But as we venture into the murky future, we must find our strength by learning to leave things behind.”
And that’s what I am going to do.
Thanks for the memories. But I need to let you go. Sayonara! 🙂